
That flower stands for freedom. I am a freedom fighter.
On Christmas Eve last year – yep, 2009 – I sat in a church with 600 other Christians and prayed for financial favor to be in God’s will for me.
How do I know that all 601 of us prayed for this? Call it a divine intervention in my spirit. Trust me, I felt it. The way we held each others hands when we prayed, the height of each voice singing in the choir, the passion and humbling poise in the eyes of the pastor and deacons. Everyone in that church was praying for the sake of their wallet.
Before Jason and I even walked into the church, I said to him that there would probably be a full house because it’s been a tough year for most U.S. citizens. He shrugged it off because, really and truly, who knew. But when we walked through the church doors and saw pews filled to the very back row, even I was taken back.
Pew-dwelling pilgrims, I thought…taking up all the good seats. Jason and I had to sit in the back. And, man, to sit in the back AND to have no money to tithe ON CHRISTMAS EVE is almost the worst guilt trip I’ve had in a couple of years.
The first prayer that one of the deacons spoke unto God was a prayer for the world’s leaders; President Obama and other Middle Eastern principals mainly. The doxologious prayer led many of us joined in prayer to “amen” and “Thank you, Lord.” I just nodded.
The next prayer the deacon spoke was for our communities here in America. He asked for good fortune to come upon Los Angeles, and for the community’s strength to be lifted. Something along those lines.

Photo from the South Town Star/AP
His final prayer got us all squinting our eyes and pushing the prayer high into the heavens so God could really take notice. It was about taking us through 2010 with blessed finances and families. FUN FACT (or not; take it how you want it): It’s safe to say that the recession is keeping a lot of families together, even if husband and wife were thinking about divorcing. It’s expensive to get a divorce! The divorce rate in Los Angeles is recorded at somewhere between 65% and 70% (2004 reports). According to a Yelp! article, divorce rates have gone down or stayed the same in all states between 2006 and 2008. Great article, by the way! Check it out.
BUT HONESTLY, when you get to praying, do you really think about all the things you’ve given back to God? No.
When I pray, I start with a thanks to Jesus for dying to save my soul, then start asking for blessings for my family, friends and for myself, and finally I give thanks again and tell Him I love him. It’s actually kind of informal. However, in my not telling God about all the stuff I’ve done to deserve his favor (i.e. donate money, be a listening ear, helping people, volunteering my time, giving some cash to homeless folks, etc.), He already knows I’ve done it all in good intentions anyway! I’m already halfway to FAVORLAND even before I drop to my knees!
The church service ended after about an hour or so. We left, went home, maybe played Monopoly, cleaned up and ate dinner. There was no Christmas tree or any presents. Just Jason and I doing our everyday thing.
On that day, we didn’t expect anything from anyone or give anything extra to anyone either, but it turns out that we got gifts anyway. Gift cards from a friend’s Mom (who also cooked a delicious Christmas dinner for us). I got a job. Jason got a free hard drive for his laptop.
Not such a bad Christmas after all.
Some things I’ve learned between 2009 and 2010:
1. Pray and give back – TIME and MONEY – even when you’re doing very well. To whom much is given, much is required.
2. My income must outweigh my bills.
3. Sometimes, there are more important bills to pay than rent (i.e. student loans lingering toward delinquency)
4. Budgeting really does help.
5. Invest money AND time.
6. Do good work, not just hard work.
7. Just because I’m passionate about something I believe in doesn’t make it good for me.
The number 7 is my cousin’s lucky number, I believe. I may just follow those learned items for the rest of my life.
Other things I’ve learned that are outside of my financial lifestyle:
1. Working out makes me feel better and gets the kid motivated.
2. I guess I need new(er) friends, especially since I live all the way out here in LA now.
3. Adulthood is a mix of childhood and senioritis. Or bundles of wild energy and long periods of senile lethargy, if you will.
4. I love me and I’m cute.
5. I enjoy Chris Brown’s voice despite what mistakes he’s made.

Photo from ChrisBrownWorld.com
Yeah, I said that last one.
Things I am really thankful for in 2010:
1. $1.68 romaine lettuce at Food4Less
2. Food4Less
3. Jason’s Jasonry
4. My own accountability
5. Cherise for getting me that drink at The Library
6. My entire family, from Connecticut down to Georgia
7. Joshua, for being in Senegal because it keeps my eyes on the prize – Kenya!
8. My friends
9. Law & Order SVU marathons
9.5. Knowing that I don’t need a drink to get it poppin
10. God’s financial favor, because I’ve got it.
Amen.